I saw an interesting film yesterday …O.K. Mr. Simms made me watch it. It was called This Emotional Life: Rethinking Happiness.
And as happens with documentaries, if I sit there and pay attention long enough, I learned something.
Did you know that as we age, our emotional connections shrink, yet we grow miraculously happier?
In other words, in our 20s and 30s, we spend our time running around with a multitude of “friends,” convinced that we’re happy. But it’s not until we grow older and the tests and trials of life have whittled that list of fair weather buddies down to a loyal few that we are truly happy.
I don’t know. Maybe this new knowledge is resonating with me, because I just turned 40. (And I found another gray hair. Where are the hell are they sprouting from? LOL!)
Anyhoo, after viewing the doc, I found myself rapping Whodini’s old school jam, Friends, and that got me thinking about some other friendship oldie but goodie hits.
Who hasn’t sung Bill Withers’ Lean on Me or Dionne, Stevie, Elton and Gladys’ That’s What Friends Are For at the top of their lungs in the shower? And I know I’m not the only one who has whistled along to James Taylor’s classic You’ve Got A Friend while shopping at the grocery store…
The point, Fam, is that most of us can sing these lyrics word for word, but how many of us really live these lyrics day by day?
Hello? C’mon now, I know I’m not the only one guilty of taking good friends for granted.
More crickets? O.K. we’re online, so I can’t hear you saying amen. So, just in case this post is falling on deaf ears, let me just talk to my loyal few.
Dear Ride or Diers:
Human, I haven’t always been the best friend that you’ve been to me. But I am eternally grateful to you. Trust.
You are my I-can-call-in-the-middle-of-the-night-and-you’ll-still-answer-the-phoners. You, my devoted tribe, translate my silences, decipher my smiles and speak truth into my hard-headed eardrums, even when I don’t want you to.
You, my dear friends, ground me. Love and push me. Bonded by laughter and tears, you are more than important — You matter.
And I need you. I thank you. I love you.
Happy New Year,
Fam, what ride or diers do you want to thank or wished you had thanked? Go ahead. 🙂